Wednesday, March 30, 2005

dating lesson

joy just lent me the book HE'S JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU by greg behrendt and liz tuccillo. i should have read this book before i joined 'the game'. i'm gonna write a part of the lessons i have learned from reading it overnight. rose, gay, jiale, cecille, nhila and to all my other friends who have gone through what i have been through, para sa atin ito. ladies and gents, read em and weep.

"... so what if in the beginning or a while into it, it gets a little vague? who wants to be that crazy girl who needs to know exactly what's going on the minute she meets a guy? you want to be the cool girl. the girl who knows how to hang out and not be all demanding...

the thing about the cool girl is that she still gets her feelings hurt. she still has reactions to how she's being treated. she still hopes he'd call. wonders when she'll get to see him again. and if he's excited about being with her. i hate that. priorities have changed as i've gotten older. now i don't want to be 'sort of dating' someone. i don't want to be 'kinda hanging out' with someone. i don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so i appear uninvolved. i want to be sleeping with someone i know i'll see again because they've already demonstrated to me that they are honorable and trustworthy. and into me. sure in the beginning you have to be somewhat cautious about how much you give away. but that caution shouldn't be to make them feel more comfortable; it should be because you know that you are ultimately a delicate valuable creature who should be careful and discerning about who gets your affection.


i said to myself last night this will be my new mantra. but hey you know me im such a rule breaker sometimes. and a so bitter ampalaya. i am the cool girl. but i want to be THE GIRL.

its so hard getting burned. ahh the intricacies of dating. and love.

"i'd walk under a bus. get hit by a train. keep falling in love. which is kind of the same. I've sunk out at sea, crashed my car, gone insane. but it felt so good i wanna do it again."


laspiƱa clothing said...

A lot of guys at this age really have problems with commitment. I remember being a teenager, wanting to secure myself that girlfriend.But as time went by, casual relationships is something i prefer. Maybe because of past relationships where I'm the one who got burnt. Or getting into a relationship where your feelings just change and the girl goes all psycho on you. Sorry to hear that you're not getting into the relationship you want. I hope you meet someone who'll stick around. I'm trying to get there myself! :) (Random blog wanderer here. :)

eventuallypretty said...

thank you :)

... beachfreak said...

hey, twin! It's taking all of my self-control not to read it. Hehehe! Am sure it is a good read. Ewan ko ba. Good luck to us! ;)